Your Attachment Style Isn't a Flaw. It's a Pattern You Can Change.
Anxious attachment can make even good relationships feel exhausting. Therapy helps you understand where it came from — and build something more secure.
Free 15-minute consultation · No commitment · Online across Ontario
You might relate to this more than you think.
- •You need a lot of reassurance in relationships — and feel guilty for it
- •When someone pulls back, even slightly, your anxiety spikes
- •You replay conversations looking for signs something is wrong
- •You tend to give a lot in relationships, hoping it will make people stay
- •Closeness feels both desperately wanted and quietly terrifying
- •You're not sure how to feel secure without constant confirmation that things are okay
Anxious attachment isn't a personality problem. It's a learned response — and it can be unlearned.
What anxious attachment really is
Anxious attachment develops when early relationships taught you that connection is unpredictable — that love has to be earned, maintained carefully, or it might disappear.
That lesson shapes how you show up in relationships as an adult: hypervigilant to shifts in mood, quick to self-blame, always working a little too hard to keep the peace.
CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) is particularly effective here. It helps you identify the thought patterns keeping you in this cycle — "if I ask for too much they'll leave," "I'm too needy," "I should just be grateful" — and replace them with something more grounded and secure.
Meet Corinna
Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying)
Corinna was adopted from China at five months old. She grew up knowing her story — her mom was open about it from the very beginning, framing it not as something to explain away, but as part of who she was. And for the most part, that foundation held.
But she still remembers the first time a classmate looked at her and said: "So you weren't wanted?"
That question — and the ones that followed — is something Corinna has sat with for a long time. Not with bitterness, but with real curiosity about what belonging means, where it comes from, and why it can feel so fragile even when you're loved.
Before becoming a therapist, Corinna was a teacher. She watched students struggle with exactly the kinds of things her clients bring to her now: not knowing how to trust people, working hard to keep the peace, feeling paralyzed when it came to their own needs. She wanted to do more than notice those patterns. She wanted to help change them.
Using CBT, Corinna helps clients trace anxious attachment back to where it started — and build something steadier in its place. Her approach is warm, direct, and grounded in her own experience of learning what secure connection actually feels like.
She won't just sit with you in the feeling. She'll help you understand it, question it, and move through it.
You're also welcome to work with one of our other therapists
Sarah Sousa
Warm, relational therapy for anxiety, emotional overwhelm, and people-pleasing patterns in relationships.
Book with Sarah
Melissa Servello
CBT-focused support for anxiety, self-esteem, and the overthinking that fuels relationship insecurity.
Book with Melissa
Sharon Jeong
Couples and individual therapy for rebuilding trust, navigating disconnection, and finding secure closeness.
Book with Sharon
Louise Tiwaah-Acheamfour
Compassionate therapy for anxiety, self-worth, and the relational patterns that keep you bracing for disconnection.
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What a first consultation looks like
Your first step is a free 15-minute consultation — no pressure, no commitment. It's a chance to share a little about what's been going on, ask questions, and get a feel for whether we're the right fit.
Sessions are held online, so you can access care from anywhere in Ontario.
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